Self-Bullying Defined
Self-bullying is the act of sabotaging one’s self. Making sabotaging decisions in career, relationship, school, and family. It also involves telling yourself negative words or thoughts that make you feel inferior, unloved, incompetent; constantly undermining yourself, and talking bad about yourself. It also involves pushing yourself past your mental, physical or emotional level.
It’s at the core, a form of self-harm because what you’re doing is literally hurting yourself. You’re your own worst enemy, your own worst critic. As you read you might think to yourself, “do I bully myself?”
Unlike the physical form of self-harm (which we would be talking about in another article), sometimes we aren’t even aware we’re bullying ourselves.
We can tell ourselves that this is how we get better, how we practice to become perfect or reach the goals we aspire for. While that might be true for some people, it spells disaster for the rest.
More often than we care to admit, self-bullying stems from a place of hate. Other times, it stems from a perceived sense of incompetence or inferiority.